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Thursday, May 3, 2012

Warrior Prayers...Day Three


Prayers for Day Three…

I can see it in my 13 year old son’s face these days.  He has mom and dad telling him what to do; he has teachers telling him what to do; he has coaches, scoutmasters, grandparents, pastors…all telling him what to do. His eyes reveal his feelings:  he thinks that he is ready to be his own boss.  Let me assure you…He is NOT.  But you know what?  Neither am I.  I am so thankful that I am under the authority of my husband and ultimately my Father.  There is much freedom in submission.  There is much protection in remaining properly arranged.  It is our job to teach this counter-cultural truth to our boys.

Abraham submitted to Yahweh by his willingness to sacrifice Isaac.  Isaac submitted to Abraham on the mountain.  God rewarded their obedience and submission:  “in your offspring shall all the nations of the earth be blessed, because you have obeyed my voice.”  (Genesis 22:18)

Another Son, Jesus, submitted to His authority by going to the cross.  Once again, Father God protected and rewarded the obedient Son: “Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father." (Philippians 2:9-11)

If our goal is to mold our sons into the image of Christ to the glory of the Father, then the attribute of submission to authority—parents, teachers, pastors, coaches—must be taught to them and modeled for them by us. 

Commit to praying the following prayers for your sons or grandsons today.

Submission to Authority

May __________obey his leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over his soul, as those who will have to give an account. Let him do this with joy and not with groaning (Hebrews 13:17).

May __________ submit himself therefore to God. May he resist the devil, so he will flee from him (James 4:7).

May __________submit to laborers of the Gospel and to everyone who joins in the work (1 Corinthians 16:16).

May __________submit to others out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21).

May __________be subject to the Father of spirits and live (Hebrews 12:9).

May __________agree with God, and be at peace; so good will come to him (Job 22:21).

May __________ be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God (Romans 13:1).

May __________submit himself to the LORD (2 Chronicles 30:8).

May__________, who is younger, be subject to the elders. May he clothe himself with humility toward others, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (1 Peter 5:5).

For freedom Christ has set us free; may __________stand firm therefore, and not submit again to a yoke of slavery (Galatians 5:1).

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Warrior Prayers...Day Two


Prayers for Day Two…

I had to discipline my youngest son tonight at Bruster’s. The thought flashed through my mind: “Why can’t he just obey??”  Almost immediately came the reminder from my Father, “Because you can’t.”  We are all sinful people whose hearts are absolutely intent on having our own way.  But, out of my love for Christ and His shed blood on the cross, I should be trying to conform myself into His likeness by obedience to His commands on a daily…hourly…minute by minute basis. 

Similarly, let’s remember that before we can truly change our sons’ outward behavior, their hearts must be filled with love for the One who gives them the desire and ability to obey.  That will only happen if we daily remind them of the awesome love of the Father who sent His Son to the cross.  We do that in word and in deed…by ourselves obeying the high call of motherhood.

Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.” ~John 14:21

Commit to praying the following prayers for your sons or grandsons today.

Obedience

Whether it is favorable or unfavorable, may ___________ obey the LORD our God so that it will go well with him (Jeremiah 42:6).

May __________ obey his parents in the Lord, for this is right (Ephesians 6:1).

May __________ obey his leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over his soul, as those who will have to give an account. Let __________ do this with joy and not with groaning (Hebrews 13:17).

May __________ obey God rather than men (Acts 5:29).

May __________ return to the LORD His God, and obey with all his heart and all his soul all the commands God has given (Deuteronomy 30:2).

May __________ walk after the LORD His God and fear Him and keep His commandments and obey His voice. May he serve Him and hold fast to Him (Deuteronomy 13:4).

May __________ stop his sinning and begin to obey the LORD his God (Jeremiah 26:13).

May __________ obey Jesus' commandments, and remain in His love (John 15:10).

May __________ show his love for Christ by obeying His commands (John 14:15).

May we be full of joy at __________'s obedience (Romans 16:19).

Warrior Prayers...Day One


I am so glad that you have chosen to join me in this journey of praying for our sons.  I hope that our sons are ready…the prayers of mothers in the hands of an all-powerful God can produce awesome results!  Please know that I am traveling with you on this journey, not leading.  While I know some of you well, some of you are strangers to me.  Please feel free to email or message me if you have any questions or if you have specific prayer requests for your sons. 

Throughout these days of prayer for our sons, I hope you will remember the words of the Lord spoken through the prophet Ezekiel:  It is not for your sake, people of Israel, that I am going to do these things, but for the sake of my holy name…” (Ez. 36:22)  I truly believe that God is going to do a mighty work in the lives of our precious sons as a result of the many prayers lifted up to the throne of Heaven on their behalf.  However, Not to us, Lord, not to us but to your name be the glory, because of your love and faithfulness.”  (Ps. 115:1)

Now…to the Prayers for Day One…

The most foundational thing we can ask God for in the lives of our sons is heart change.  To that end, this time of concentrated prayer for our sons, our warriors, must begin with praying for heart change. 

Luke 6:45 says, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

Commit to praying the following prayers for your sons or grandsons today.

Heart Change

May _________ first clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean (Matthew 23:26).

Give __________ a new heart, and a new spirit put within him. Remove the heart of stone from his flesh and give him a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26).

May __________ honor God with his heart, and not just his lips (Isaiah 29:13). 

May __________ out of the good treasure of his heart produce good, for out of the abundance of his heart his mouth speaks (Luke 6:45).

May __________'s heart cry be, “not my will, but Yours, be done.” (Luke 22:42).

May __________ draw near to God, and He will draw near to him. May he cleanse his hands and purify his heart (James 4:8).

Create in __________ a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).

May __________ be like the wise man, whose heart inclines him to the right (Ecclesiastes 10:2).

May __________ not take idols into his heart, and set the stumbling block of his iniquity before his face (Ezekiel 14:3).

When he hears the Word of the Lord, may __________ be cut to the heart (Acts 2:37).

21 Days of Prayer for Sons...Warrior Prayers!


As my oldest son has crossed over into teenager-hood, I am desperate for God's hand of protection and guidance as we parent him. Trust me, the enemy is waging a battle for the souls of our sons. The only way to fight and win this battle is on our knees. I do not pray for my children as I should....I hope these 21 Days of Prayer for Our Sons will help me create a habit that will yield eternal results. 

The idea comes from the Following website... http://www.brookemcglothlin.com/warriorprayers/21-days-of-prayer-for-sons/
(There is an ebook that you can purchase and download from this site, but you do not have to do that.)

Our group's key Scripture will be Psalm 144:1-4, 12 & 15

"Blessed be the LORD, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle; he is my steadfast love and my fortress, my stronghold and my deliverer, my shield and he in whom I take refuge, who subdues peoples under me. O LORD, what is man that you regard him, or the son of man that you think of him? Man is like a breath; his days are like a passing shadow...May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace...Blessed are the people to whom such blessings fall! Blessed are the people whose God is the LORD!"

Monday, May 16, 2011

Why I am Involved in Junior Miss...

There are several reasons why I support Junior Miss. First of all, when I was introduced to Junior Miss in my hometown of Dublin, GA, the program was (and still is) run by a wonderful group of Godly ladies. When I participated in the local and state programs, the emphasis was on excellence…in scholarship, talent, modesty, poise, communication…for all of these things I believe you can find Scriptural support. Of course, we are exhorted in Scripture to do all things with excellence, so the entire “Be Your Best Self” portion of the program appeals to me.


Secondly, Junior Miss is the only program of its kind which rewards excellence in a variety of fields. Children and young adults are often rewarded for excellence in one area or another—scholastics, sports, theatre, music, art—but the philosophy of Junior Miss is to look for the most well-rounded young woman in all of those areas. That philosophy greatly appeals to me because it fits with mine & Trey’s parenting philosophy. It is not our goal to attempt to make our children a great dancer, baseball player, violinist, etc., at the exclusion of well-roundedness. Let’s be honest…only a fraction of children will earn a living in any of those areas. Most of them will be normal adults, doing normal jobs, with normal day to day responsibilities. Of course, as a Christian, I pray that we parent our children in a way which instills in them a desire to live out the Great Commission before seeking greatness in any other field.

Thirdly, Junior Miss rewards excellence in these young women with scholarship money. Even if you don’t win the local program, you can win category awards, Spirit of Jr Miss award, etc., which can often pay for books or more. If you do win the local program, you have the opportunity to go to various schools free…and then there are the additional funds which can be won at the state level. Junior Miss doesn’t waste money on crowns, sashes, tiaras, etc.

Lastly, Trey and I are not called to full-time ministerial staff positions. However, we know that God has gifted us in various areas and He expects us to utilize those gifts for His glory. As I debated about whether to get back involved in the Junior Miss program, I remembered that Christ-honoring volunteers are necessary in all areas of secular life. Otherwise, we are all just Christians in our Christian bubble…weird to the world and ineffective for the Kingdom. If I display integrity while running the Lee Co. Junior Miss Program, then Christ is honored as the other volunteers and participants see how a believer conducts herself. Thankfully, the current Board is composed of quite a few Christian women. So we have the opportunity to show Christ throughout the program.

So…why do I choose to be involved with Junior Miss? It’s a matter of being in the world and not of the world. Shining a light in the darkness as opposed to being a bunch of lights gathered together illuminating nothing. My desire is to be different while making a difference, not just to say that I’m different. Just because you play Christian music doesn’t mean you operate your business with integrity. Just because your restaurant has Bible verses on the wall doesn’t mean that you have the best food in town. Just because you have a fish on your car doesn’t mean that you aren’t cheating on your wife. Just because you are a Sunday school teacher doesn’t mean that you aren’t an embarrassment to Christ as you deal with your children’s teachers. I guess you get my point. Trey and I are choosing to walk in the world while keeping our eyes fixed on the cross and staying true to our goal of righteousness in Christ. May God be glorified in all that we do.

Oh, by the way, there will be winners in the Junior Miss Program. And there will be losers.  But isn’t that part of life…the life that God has created for us? We aren’t all winners in the world’s eyes. Thanks be to God that He views us in light of Christ’s righteousness…the only glory in which we can ever truly boast. This is another reason why it is important for Godly women to be involved in the local programs…to offer support to these girls as they try and succeed or try and fail, but most importantly, just try.







Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Exerpts from Macy Maddox's Coffee Talk on June 14, 2010. The topic was Discipling Your Children.

2 Timothy 3: 14-15 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, 15and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.


The Holy Scriptures will make you wise to salvation. Give them Jesus!

First of all, you must know Christ yourself. Secondly, you must love your husband.
Always have a “wifery” book. Macy’s current one is Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs http://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1591451876/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1276578171&sr=1-1


Teach them the things of God

What are hindrances to reading, immersing, pummeling your children with God’s truth?
  • Time 
    • Be leery of organized activities too early.
    • Play with siblings.
    • Go outside.
    • Stay at home.
  • Distractions
    • Back off.
    • Do only one thing outside of the home.
    • When you are home, BE ALL THERE.
  • Children’s short attention span
    • Be quick and to the point.
    • As long as they aren’t interrupting you, let them be children.
  • Feelings of inadequacy
    • Learn it yourself! God will give you what to say.
Recommended Parenting Books

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Play to win, but in the process, grow

We have just wrapped up another baseball season for our oldest son, Ted. The practices, the games, the uniform-washing…I really do love all of it as the mom of a growing boy. However, this season has caused me sadness in my heart for the future. What is the purpose for youth team sports? Why do families sacrifice “free time” for youth sports? Why do we spend hours upon hours at the ballpark?


Youth team sports should be first and foremost about character-development. You should want your children to learn a few basic attributes as a result of sports: a good work ethic, perseverance, cooperation among teammates, coachability, how to handle adversity. If your goal for your son in little league baseball is to get him a Junior College scholarship, I am afraid you are misguided. If your goal for your son in little league baseball is for him to be a Major Leaguer, I am afraid you are delusional. The number of MLB players in its history is estimated to be around 17,000; the number of children aged 6 to 18 who compete in youth sports every year is around 44 million (according to the National Council’s 2008 study).


Trey was the head coach for Ted’s team this spring. During his initial meeting with the parents, he told them, “We may not win a game, but we will do three things: 1. We will hustle on and off the field; 2. We will manage our own dugout; and, 3. We will respect our teammates, our coaches and the umpires and not have temper tantrums.” What was he saying? He was saying that he expects maximum effort, that he expects them to be responsible and that he expects respectful and appropriate behavior on and off the field.


Hustle. That doesn’t sound too hard. If I heard Trey yell, “RUN!!!” one time, I heard it one thousand times. Run on and off the field. Run to get into position to catch the ball. Run to first base when you hit the ball. Run, run, run. Exert the effort. Of course, as Christians, we believe that we should do “all things” to the glory of God. What does it say about us if we don’t expect that to trickle down to extracurricular activities? “All things” means all things.

Manage the dugout. Keep your hat and glove together. Be responsible for your gear. The Gatorade can wait; water is fine. No visiting at the dugout. (Moms, it is time that we let our boys be young men.  If they are truly hurt, the coach will come get us.)  The game is still being played even when our team is batting; it is not social hour. For goodness sake, encourage your teammates. Learn the game.  Carry your own gear to the car once the game is over. 


Respect. Your teammates deserve respect by virtue of the fact that you signed up for a team sport. That means, you show up for practice and for games. Take responsibility for your mistakes, learn from them. I don’t care if you are the “super star” on the team; don’t refer to your teammate as “kid”.  Encourage your teammates.  Be a leader. 


The coaches deserve respect from the players because they are in authority over them. I have seen that the pool of young men my daughters will have to choose from consists primarily of disrespectful boys who roll their eyes at successful grown men, yell at their own fathers from the mound, and refuse to be coachable. God help us all.  The coaches deserve respect from the parents because we have registered our children for a team sport.  Our children learn from us. 
 (Oh, another thing. If your child is fortunate enough to have a former professional baseball player as coach, please understand that he actually does know more than either you or your son do about the game. In fact, he has probably forgotten more about baseball than either of you will ever know.)


Lastly, the umpires deserve respect because they are the umpires. That might be the hardest for even the most respectful child. Umpires make bad calls. Sometimes a lot of them. But they are the final say. End of discussion. And, parents, please keep your mouths shut. I promise if you saw a video of yourself yelling at the college kid who is earning some extra money by calling balls and strikes, you would be embarrassed. It is just not acceptable.


I love, love baseball. I love that my son enjoys the sport. I love that he is competitive and wants to win. However, I am most proud of him when I see him encouraging his teammate who just made a mistake, when I see him hustling off the field after catching behind the plate for 6 innings straight, when I see him putting his arm around an opposing team’s player as they pray. Those images are worth a thousand homeruns.  He is a work in progress and God's grace has been lavished upon us over his lifetime.  May we be worthy of the responsibility of parenting Ted, his sisters and his brother.


Play to win, but in the process, grow.